Erotic Rites:
A Cultural Analysis of Contemporary U.S. Sacred Sexuality
Traditions and Trends

 

I cast this dissertation as a sacred sex working,

dedicated to the sexual healing

of our culture as a whole,

in the tradition of my peoples;

the queer-friendly, neo-pagan, feminist tribes of Wicca.

 

Table of Contents

 

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Preface – The Absurdity of Wanting Sacred Sex                                            1

 

I.          Foreword – Mother Are You Sacred Whore?                                        3

 

II.         Introducing The New Holy Erotics                                           

                        Sacred Sex Goes Public                                                                   7

                        Sacral Roots                                                                                      12

                        Harlots and Holy Women                                                                 16

                        Men as Sacred Prostitutes                                                              20

                        Evil Sexual Dirty Other                                                                     21

                        A New Politic of Sacred Sexuality                                                  24

 

III.     Planting My Knowledge Tree – Naming the Influences, Rationale,

         and Background of My Approach                                         

    Introduction                                                                                          30

    Why Cultural Studies?                                                                        32

    A Garland of Definitions –

 Eclectic, Qualitative, Phenomological, Feminist, Queer 33

                     Background Evolution of Queer Feminist Cultural Studies 34

                     Assumptions about Queer Feminist Cultural Studies                      38

                     Specific Methodology Used to Examine Contemporary

 Sacred Sex Modalities                                                                    41

                   Ethics and The On-going Process of Consent                                   42

                    Conclusion                                                                                             44

 

IV.       Elements Necessary for Making Sex Sacred 

Introduction to the Rich and Multiple Roots of

U.S. Sacred Sexualities                                                             47

A.     Sexual Knowledge –

Creating a Body of Cultural Information about Sex                       48

            Knowledge of Sexual Biology/Reproduction/

Safety/Birth Control                                                   48

                                    Knowledge of the Physiology

and Art of Sexual Pleasure                                                  54

                                    Knowledge about Relationships and Communication      57

B.     Holistic Healing                                                                             

Introduction: Holistic Healing Includes Sacred Sex           58

                              Beginning Connections Between Holistic Healing

                                          and Sacred Sex Formations                                    60

                              Self-Help Support Groups, Manuals and Classes             60

                              Mind/Body Research and Methods                                     61

                              Bodywork                                                                               63

                              Community Ritual Events                                                     66

                              Community Gatherings Conducive to Sacred Sex           69

                              Conclusion                                                                             70

            C.    Sexual Liberation Organizing                                                   70

                              Organizing on Sexuality Issues for Lasting Change         70

                              Organizing Utopian Sexual Liberation Models –

This Century and Last                                               71

                              How Women’s Liberation and LGBT Liberation Spark

                                          Gender Variances & Sexual Diversities

Affecting Sacred Sex Traditions and Trends         73

                              The Economics of Queer Feminist Sacred Sexualities,

                                          And Their Impacts on Religion & Social Justice

                                          Movements                                                                 77

                              Political Organizing in the SM/Leather Communities        79

                              Loving More Than One and Organizing About It –

                                          The Polyamory Movement                                        81

                              Not Just the Oldest Profession Anymore: 

Organizing Sex Work and Redefining It                   84

                                   How AIDS Organizing Led to More Interest

                                                In Healing and Sacred Sex                                       86

                                    Sexual Liberation Conclusion                                              88

 

D.       New Spirit Paths

Introduction: 

“Searching for A New American Spirituality”                      89

Erotic Christianities                                                               91

Judaism’s Tree of Life and Song                                         93

European Ceremonial Sex Magic and Other Occult Influences                                                                             96

                                The Influence of Eastern Religions’ Sacred Sexuality

                                                Traditions on the West                                              98

                                    Womanspirit’s Body                                                             102

                                    The New Age Movement and Sacred Sex             105

                                    The Neo-Pagan ‘People of the Earth’                                106

                                    Additional Indigenous, Earth-Based

Traditions and Influences                                         108

                                “The Two-Spirit Tradition was Suppressed”              109

                                Pansexual Orishas and the Rainbow’s Children       111

                                    Mexican-American Goddess

Imagery of Sacred Sexuality                                    113

 

                 E.   Conclusion of Necessary Elements                                         114

 

V.                             Doing Sacred Sex …

What Works and What Short-Circuits It                                   134

Sample Interview Excerpts –

the Voices of Those Who Do Sacred Sex                         137

Non-Sexual Ritual Touch                                                                        154

Common Elements of Erotic Ritual                                                       157

Range of Sacred Sex Forms in the U.S. Today                                  158

Guidelines for Developing Erotic Rituals                                             159

Erotic Rituals for Male/Female Couples                                              160

Sacred Spot Massage – for Women and Men                                    161

The Importance of Same-Sex Explorations                                         163

What Gets In The Way,

What Short-Circuits Group Erotic Energy?                                    166

          Overcoming Conditioning                                                            167

          Confronting Sexism and Heterosexism in Sacred Sex            168

          Sexual Healing Versus Ritual Abuse                                          171

Conclusion                                                                                               174

 

VI.       Emerging Erotic Communities                                                               182

                Introduction – Teaching Erotic Touch

Through Groups and Rituals                                                            182

                Loving Self-Touch                                                                                     184

                Body Electric’s Healing Circles                                                               190

                Grand Group Celebrations:                                                                     196

                            Pandora of the Pacific Northwest                                               197

                            Body Sacred of the Poconos                                                      200

                            Queen of Heaven of San Francisco                                            204
                 Concluding Thoughts on New Erotic Communities Emerging 206

 

VII.      Contemporary Sacred Sexualities - Conclusions

           Self-Loving                                                                                                212

           Embracing/Erasing Otherness                                                      214

           Mutual Ministering                                                                         221

           The Growth of Erotic Communities                                                       222

 

VIII.     Afterword – Giving Thanks to the Queen of Heaven and Earth     227


Bibliography

 

Appendices

A          Sample Press Clips –

  Wall Street Journal & Esquire articles on sacred sex,

  Atlantic Monthly tantric whisky ad

B          Interview Questions

C          Interview Log and Participant-Observation Log

D          Sample Release Form for Interviews

E          Resource List

F          Sample Guidelines for Group Erotic Rituals

G          Sample Statements of Purpose – two local sacred sex groups,

                           & a national network of erotic healers

   H         Half a Millennium Roots of U.S. Sacred Sex – A Timeline

I           Sample Literature Selection – U.S. sacred sex groups and products